Good for you Richie...sticking up for yourself and getting results.
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typically ridiculous.
by RichieRich inlast saturday, me and a friend from the hall decided to go to nc state fair together.
i have been told that the state fair is not a big deal in other areas of the country, but here in these parts, it means alot to us, expecially since we live in/near the capital city.
about the friend: he's a year younger than me, and we go to the same school.
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hello, i'm new :)
by MRSJG innew to the forum, new to the truth.
trying to get a better understanding of what i'm looking for.. .
i'm a young married mother of three beatuiful babies.
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Find out if there's a qualified brother or sister in your congregation who can discuss and help you with your confusion about the blood issue, that's who helped me with it.
Qualified how?? Because they are taught from a medical school as to the pros & cons of a blood transfusion?? Did they have MD after their name & a diploma to back it up? Or qualified as in someone who is a JW and because of that is an expert on the topic??
Everyone has an opinion....they are like belly buttons. Get armed with your OWN information and your OWN thoughts before you believe what someone else tells you regardless of why you are doing the research.
Good luck, you've come to the right place for information & belly buttons! Welcome by the way!
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Life is so strange....
by Seeking Knowledge insince i first posted here, things in my life with the jw's has changed.. my jw ex and his current wife are still royal pains, and they isolate themselves from the very family that had chosen to not speak or even acknowledge me during our relationship.
this, of course in turn isolated my ex's family from our son while they were living there.
they went out of their way (while living with the 'rents) to keep our son away from his grandparents, aunt & cousins until they finally got evicted (yes evicted) from the 'rents house and got their own place.
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Since I first posted here, things in my life with the JW's has changed.
My JW Ex and his current wife are still royal pains, and they isolate themselves from the very family that had chosen to not speak or even acknowledge me during our relationship. This, of course in turn isolated my Ex's family from our son while they were living there. They went out of their way (while living with the 'rents) to keep our son away from his grandparents, aunt & cousins until they finally got evicted (yes evicted) from the 'rents house and got their own place.
Since then, the JW family was able to sit down & see things that weren't quite right in their perfect JW world. First thing was that I didn't really have 3 heads and that I really didn't have a problem with my son seeing his grandparents (they were told otherwise). Since then, we've been able to sit down & compare notes and they have discovered so many lies at the hands of my Ex and his current wife. Currently, they don't allow the family to see their new baby either. My Ex has no control over me allowing my son to see his grandparents and boy oh boy does that cause them much grief!!
When my Ex and his wife moved out of his parents house, his sister approached wanting to start things right, be friendly & still be able to see her nephew. Once that was established, the Father came around then the Mother. I've been over at the house, invited for lunch, movies and whatever else. Don't get me wrong, we don't hang out all the time. I live very close to the grandparents so my son does see them frequently, and I don't have a problem with that. They don't speak religion to me or my son and he's never over there alone really. All of the JW exposure my son gets comes from being with his father.
I'm learning first hand that my Ex really is the flaming idiot I thought he was, and so very misguided. His family still blames the wife for everything that has happened, sometimes more than they should, and I've had alot of my "feelings" validated. This past summer the wife actually left my Ex and filed a restraining order against him for domestic violence. His family was actually PLEASED about this, hoping that it meant they'd get their son back. Alas, as expected, she went back to him. Recently found out that she's preggo again, and their son together isn't even a year old yet. I've kept my mouth shut on alot of comments which I could say as respects their dislike for the new wife, I enjoy letting them tell me THEIR thoughts that way nothing comes back to bite me! They do not speak to their son and have made it perfectly clear that they are not welcome back in their house so long as she is still in the picture. I'll grant that she does cause ALOT of problems in my dealings with my Ex so alot of their feelings towards her I feel are warranted.
My relationship with my Ex hasn't changed a bit. He still won't talk to me about our son, still does things with our son and tells me it's not my business and has lost his mind wanting me to keep my son away from his family. I've asked him for a good reason to do that, and he can't come up with anything other than he'd prefer that our son didn't see them. I've told him his problem is between him & his family, not me or our son and I'm not going to be the bad guy. (I have contacted a lawyer for OUR problems and things are looking up there. It's also been told to me from his family that they WILL speak to any judge if asked to support me. SHOCK) This past summer during the restraining order period, I was able to sit down & explain to him why I didn't want my son brought up a JW and I shocked myself. Knowledge is power!! Even he couldn't provide any good reasons why he SHOULD be a JW and I called him on his hypocrascy and his own lack of knowledge. He was amazed that I knew what I knew (thank you forum!!) I saw all the signs I expected, the "uh I don't know I'll have to get back to you" etc. it was quite comical really.
I guess the last couple of months have been so surreal for me, I've been welcomed without religion being brought in (good thing) and able to show a side of me that should have been shown from the beginning. His mother now hugs me after each visit and has come to my house to comment on my choice of paints for walls, etc. I'm closer to his sister, but we don't hang out, just so they can see my son. This past weekend we all took the kids to a movie. Yes, they do the meetings, and the Saturday thing and seem pretty devout, but maybe my impression of them was a little harsh and they aren't as "into" it as they could be? His sister has only tried to give me a magazine once, and I told her thank you. It dropped there. She knows I go to church and she knows that my son is going too. She even told me that her brother was wrong for wanting to "shove this religion" down our sons' throat as both she & he had it done to them and they both left. (and went back). I told her I didn't think any religion should tell one how to think or act and that I was teaching my son to keep an open mind and ask lots of questions. She said that was the right thing to do! I have never set foot in a KH yet, altho I'd like to for my son's sake and only to hear what really goes on so I have better knowledge in my future regarding why I feel my son shouldn't be there. That's going to take alot from me however
Just had to vent...it's just weird for me to have been the "bad guy" for so long and then realize that it wasn't all ME afterall! That and last nite my son's grandfather came over to visit him and my house is all decked out in Halloween decorations!! He didn't even blink. He came in, sat down & visited. My son pointed out every decoration to him and he smiled & nodded. Scary indeed! I do know that blood is thicker than water however, and am always on guard waiting for the other shoe to drop. We'll see!
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PLEASE SIGN THIS PETITION AGAINST ANIMAL CRUELTY
by Sam the Man inplease do not read if you get overly upset by animal cruelty .
in the indian ocean, they are using live dogs and cats to throw in as bait for sharks.
rspca petition.
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WOW...that's unbelievable!! I signed it....
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do you like your women natural?
by kittyeatzjdubs innot like hairy armpits, hairy legs, and no deodarant natural... the no makeup, kinda unkempt hair natural.
matt swears i look the most gorgeous in the morning when i first wake up and my hair's all messy.
he doesn't like me wearing makeup (which is fine w/ me
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Talesin LOLYea..mine used to tell me the same thing...only the woman he married is about 3 sizes bigger than me (and I ain't no petite flower) Go figure..she's got a mouth to go along with it, and boy does she use it. He knows what he can & can't do for sure!
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Boobah... an acid trip for kids?
by Elsewhere inwhen i get up for work in the morning i normally watch a bit of news in bed before i start to move around.
the other day i was flipping through the channels and came across a very very strange show on pbs at 6:30 am (dallas channel 13) called boobah.
it is designed for very young children... and i swear it looks like an acid trip!
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Just watch out for the Doodlebops
OMG...I just saw these guys for the first time last week when my son was sick.....I was compelled to watch!!
Boobah...TOO WEIRD...my son doesn't even like it.....ha!!
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do you like your women natural?
by kittyeatzjdubs innot like hairy armpits, hairy legs, and no deodarant natural... the no makeup, kinda unkempt hair natural.
matt swears i look the most gorgeous in the morning when i first wake up and my hair's all messy.
he doesn't like me wearing makeup (which is fine w/ me
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My ex used to tell me he wished I wouldn't wear so much make up that I was beautiful without it etc. Keep in mind I only ever wear a little eyeliner & mascara, I thought he was charming (and I'm so gullible).
Imagine my surprise when the woman he married wears more make up than Bozo the Clown You could scrape THAT off with a knife. I wonder if he ever tells her to not wear so much??
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We were taught in my criminal law class that if there are 5 cars speeding down the road, they're gonna catch the slowest one at the very back. Guess they weren't kidding!
Poor Granny...
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HELP!!!!!
by findingmyway inmy 8-year-old son asked me yesterday if i liked going to the kh.
i told him "no, not really.
" he said that he doesn't really like to go all the time either, but we have to go if we want to get into paradise.. i allow him to go to the kh with my parents when he wants to because he does like to go.
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Jgnat, I too thank you for that suggestion, I'm going to look for that book this weekend. My ex takes my son with him on his visitation nites, so I don't have alot of say in the matter. I do take my son to my church every Sunday and talk to him when the times come up about how his dad believes what he believes, and that God loves everyone, not just certain people, etc.
FMW--you care about your son, just keep reassuring him and encourage him to keep an open mind. Don't let your parents tell YOU what you can & can't do with your child or tell your child anything YOU don't want them to say. Start practicing NO when it comes to them! It'll get easier! Remember, YOU are the parent, not them!
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Vaginal Birth or Cesarean Section
by Dimples into all the mommy's out there...did you deliver vaginally or by c-section?.
i was fortunate enough to deliver both my children vaginally although i came close to a c-section with my son.
he was in the posterier position.
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Both mine were born naturally with unnaturally fast labors.
First one, I had no idea what to expect other than what my mother told me. I remember being in the shower for the most part (highly recommend it if you can do it) and being yelled at to get "back on the bed" and discovering they should call the doctor fast. During my pushing/labor I would feel a contraction coming on & then it would go away. The doctor & nurse were having a discussion during all this about how "episiotomies" were "highly overrated" and well...once my darling was born (labor to finish 3 hours) I had to be stitched up big time..and come to find out, when my mother had me, she had the exact same issue...fun. He explained I had third degree tears..."you know, like the burn" If I had the energy I would have smacked him. Girl, 7lbs 8 oz 19 1/2"....today she's 5'8"...
Second..labor was fast, in the shower again, only this time I wanted drugs. Nurse came to check me, said "uh oh" and told me to get back on the bed...Dr came in to break my waters & my son came out with it. No time for drugs again...tore a little....but was rewarded by my handsome prince. 8lbs 7oz, 20 1/2 inches...labor to finish, about 4 hours. Today he's 4 and quite the handful!
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Congrats on all the pending births...don't worry...as my mother says "it's the quickest forgotten pain....until the next one